The word Tantra is properly used to describe a body of spiritual belief originating in Hinduism and Tibetan Buddhism. But the way most providers in this industry use it is to describe a non-religious philosophy of sexuality. The practices and mindset of Tantra can be incorporated into your sexuality, regardless of your personal understanding of the Divine, to expand the pathways of pleasure in the body and deepen your comfort with intimacy.
On the surface, a session with a provider that specializes in Tantra will be lengthy, with long, drawn out stroking and touching. Everything is slow, with a focus on consciousness. There are simple breath techniques that can be employed to quickly produce deep states of relaxation and excitement in the body when combined with touch. The idea is to be mentally quite alert, while physically deeply relaxed. This produces the kind of openness that literally allows the body to “hold” more sexual energy.
A great beginners overview to the subject of Tantra is found at http://www.whitelotuseast.com This site has a good collection of articles and book excerpts on the subject of Tantra both for the newcomer and the more experienced practitioner.
The Society for Human Sexuality has a small library of articles on Tantra as well. When you’re ready for a more in-depth conversation on Tantra be sure to read the first two articles found at: http://www.sexuality.org
This world has its own vocabulary and set of rules.
It’s confusing at first, but if you invest the time to do a little research, use your intuition and common sense, there is a smorgasbord of pleasure available to you.
This kind of play is expensive, and it ought to be.
When a provider has a commitment to excellence, authenticity, and relevant training, she is well worth what she asks. You should EXPECT quality at these prices.
Ask yourself the same questions you would when contacting any professional.
Is this person courteous and helpful, prompt to reply, easy to talk to, discreet? Does this person show self-respect? (a very important quality in this business!) Does this person seem to like what they are doing?
Use your intuition, make a few inquiring calls, and check out a few ads.
Take the time to read what she’s written in her ad. When you call, is she clear and direct, open and friendly? Does she make you feel comfortable, and put you at ease? Do you like the sound of her voice? Even though she will need to be businesslike and succinct in her conversation with you, you can still get a gut feeling from just a quick phone call.
Find a provider who takes pride in her work.
There are too many of us who love our jobs to settle for a woman who clearly doesn’t.