Holistic Sex Coaching
Sexological Bodywork • Somatic Sex Education
I am pleased to offer in-person and online sessions from my Vancouver-based studio to assist you in living and loving. Create fulfilling sensual intimacy that you wish for with yourself and/or in partnership(s)
– self-massage and/or receiving bodywork for individual coaching
– partner touch and/or receiving bodywork for couple coaching
Blending sex therapy, embodied erotic education and somatic practices alongside the option of:
These sessions build an embodied practice over time under an overall aim we will define (and possibly redefine) together during our first meeting. If you would like to speak about your intention beforehand and get a feel for our compatibility, I offer a 20-minute intake consultation free of charge. Just contact me to arrange your preferred time or book online.
We would ideally meet 3-10 times as feels needed for your intention – in-person or as a mixture of online and in-person sessions – over a defined time period, with exercises given for you to try out at home under email guidance between meetings.
Learn more about your body’s pleasure responses, starting with your current patterns and habits and looking for ways to expand and grow what is possible for you to experience.
Who is this for?
The processes have been carefully developed to support those individuals and couples who wish to commit to their personal development and self-actualization. Being at a point in their lives where they are ready to dedicate the time, energy and resources necessary for this delicate but rewarding process.
Your journey is unique to you and finding your own approach to inspire your desired growth will look different for each person.
We are all capable of finding our own answers within. Let go of any ideas of being ‘broken‘, ‘not healed‘ or needing fixing from an ‘expert‘ on the outside and instead embrace where you are at. Look for your own empowered approach towards self-mastery, change and expansion – with my role being to offer intuitive focus, gentle guidance and loving support from outside as needed along the way.
For those in couples who wish to work with me on an individual basis, my preference would be that you speak with your partner(s) before embarking on this process so that there is an openness and understanding within your partnership that you wish to make changes. This is particularly relevant for sessions involving intimate touch from me and I am pleased to offer support for this process if you have fears come up around it.
How does it work?
The adventure begins by feeling into those longings deep inside for what you really wish for and daring to speak them out as we consider together how I can support you along the way.
The most successful coaching arises not from anything I do, but actually from your own willingness to fine-tune and clarify what it is you truly want at each step.
Intention setting is such a large part of any process inviting change. I recommend reading this article to get started with yours before contacting me to set up an initial intake chat where you want to go with this work.
Sessions are always a co-creation based on a clear overall intention for your time working with me. Focus on ‘bite-size steps’ per meeting with a clear summary of your own perceived learning at the end.
We decide on suitable practice to continue between sessions that contribute towards your desired growth.
The kinds of intentions I hear often are related to such topics as:
I want to get more in touch with myself and feel disconnected from my body, feelings and desires.
I’ve heard about energy but don’t know what it means. How can Tantra inspire my sex life?
I feel stuck in my head in life, and this reflects in my sexual connections. I want to be more present for my pleasure.
I need everything harder and faster, but it’s not fulfilling me. How can I reset my sensual sensitivity?
My sexuality has become routine; it feels the same with myself and/or my partner. How can I expand?
I have a spiritual practice in place but haven’t managed to integrate sexuality into that sphere of my life.
I wish for deeper connections but must protect against intimacy – how can I change that?
I experience pelvic pain and soreness during arousal/sex or menstrual issues and would like support to explore this further.
I don’t feel comfortable with my body, affecting my sexual confidence.
I am curious about anal play but have soreness or shame around this area and am unsure what I like.
I somehow feel shame around sex despite knowing it’s okay… how can I release these feelings and celebrate my pleasure?
I feel disconnected from my body and find it hard to know what I want or how to ask for my needs to be met.
I find it hard to trust others when it comes to touch and wish for support to realize what I need to feel safe to open up sexually.
I have experienced violation physically, emotionally and/or sexually and would like to process that and find my voice again.
I feel insecure about pleasuring my partner and would like to learn more about giving sensual touch.
I want to move my sexuality away from the pressure of ‘desire’ and ‘needing’ into a space of curiosity and expansion.
I can’t always get physically aroused (erection/lubrication) when I want to, and I would like to understand better why that is.
I orgasm sooner than I’d like to and wish to learn more about why this happens so I can change it.
I find it hard to orgasm at all, and I would like to
I can orgasm alone easily, but with a partner, something is getting in the way.
I am not sure how to communicate my desires clearly with my partner when it comes to sex.
I would like more ideas on how to approach sex with my partner in new ways and feel more creative in our sensual connection
Who is this work not for?
Those hoping for a quick fix solution to mechanisms that often take years to have built up to their current outcome
All issues can be worked with in the sense of finding a deeper understanding of the wisdom of the body and learning how to make different choices through educating yourself, becoming aware of what’s going on on the body level, feeling into what needs to be felt and focusing on what you truly want. None of this will usually happen overnight, especially
if handing over the responsibility for your healing to others rather than being committed, actively involved in the process and using the time between sessions to integrate the learning’s while regularly practising whatever home study we may decide upon to benefit the growth you are aiming for.
What are your boundaries?
I will always be fully clothed or wearing a sarong in sessions, respecting a professional distance to support you in your learning.
Touch is given in one direction (from me to you)
Bodywork will normally be performed on a massage table or occasionally a futon depending upon requirements.
Any intimate touch will be carried out only under your specific consent both before beginning the session and during.
All touch on genitals is given while wearing nitrile gloves.
Pleasure may be present and is welcomed within the framework of your learning process, developing awareness of and feedback to the sensation.
Due to the intensity of our work together and the need to maintain professional clarity please kindly note that I do not take up invitations to spend time together privately outside of our sessions.
I am currently applying for membership with The Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS) and am committed to abiding by their code of ethics for touch-based practitioners, which you can read here
We may explore
- structured discussion
- stretching / somatics
- simple breathwork
- meditation (including orgasmic meditation | genital meditation)
- Tantric and Taoist energetic techniques
- mindful self-pleasure coaching / creating an orgasmic yoga practice
- pelvic release work for pelvic pain, erection/ejaculation issues, PMS and menstrual issues, lack of sexual sensation
- ‘mapping’ the genitals and/or anus internally by exploring energetic imprints held and rediscovering these parts of your body and your relationship to them in a safe, slow and supportive setting
I specialize in these areas
- issues around orgasm (too soon, not soon enough, not at all, not with a partner)
- intimate healing bodywork for tension/pain in the pelvic and genital area
- supporting those who have been touched without consent to find their way back to empowerment
- boundary setting and sexual assertiveness
- lack of desire
- premature ejaculation and erection issues
- Sexual energy is a powerful form of vital life force
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The themes we encounter within our sexuality will often reflect core life themes for positive changes in the realms of self-acceptance and self-love
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I warmly welcome beings of all genders, races and orientations who feel called to work with me.
Coaching Rates Online
Single Session Online
involving discussion, Coaching, somatic exercises, Meditation
$175 Individuals
$200 couples
session duration 1 hour
returning clients only
Monthly Package – 4 SESSIONS
involving discussion, Coaching, somatic exercises, Meditation
$600 Individuals
$700 couples
session duration 1 hour
4 sessions a month
Coaching Rates Inperson
Single Session
involving discussion, somatic exercises, and/or bodywork
$260 Individuals
$300 couples
session duration 1.5 hours
Package of 3 sessions
involving discussion, somatic exercises, and/or bodywork
$740 Individuals
$850 couples
session duration 1.5 hours