What a Tantra sex + intimacy coach really does

Sometimes there seems to be some confusion around what a Tantra practitioner/sex & intimacy coach does.

Tantra sessions can be conducted over the phone or in person. I have found using coaching, bodywork, yoga, emotional release and body awareness practices facilitates the client’s sexual awareness and fulfillment through healing, education, and empowerment. Intimacy coaches work with sex head-on without any blame, shame, or negative judgment so that clients can talk about the things that seem difficult to talk about and get out of shame, guilt and/or fear and into freedom, pleasure and fulfillment.

Tantra, Tantra massage or sex coaching does not mean having sex (in any form) with a client and coaching them to get better at a particular act. That’s not what my coaching and healing services are for.

The Tantric practices revolve around an ancient spiritual philosophy that, among a myriad of other aspects to HUMAN BEING-NESS, addresses sexual and erotic practices, I do not engage in these practices with clients. In my role as teacher, I welcome students’ authentic self expression and intimate exploration through conversation, however, any and all tantric practices are intended to be shared with one’s partner of choice. There are no sexual acts performed in any of my services.

It is interesting how our culture narrowly views the topic of sex as “AN ACT” exclusively. And so if we’re talking about IT or exploring IT, we must be offering to have IT, right? WRONG. It is this perception along with the general perception that sex is sinful and dirty. A buried puritanical belief left over from the past  that’s been passed on to all of us via religion, social norms and advertising. This destroys humanity. As human beings, are we not physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, AND sexual BEINGS? Why are we condemning an aspect of our humanity? Why are we making ourselves “wrong” and “bad” and “dirty”? Is it possible that in so doing we cultivate anger, fear, guilt, and shame? What would life be like if we stopped doing this to ourselves and stopped projecting this exceedingly low vibrational energy toward each other and the world?

This is why I study and teach Tantra. The philosophy and evolutionary practices are a guide for living in harmony with our true nature. I have seen and personally experienced the destruction rejecting an integral part of ones self does. I guide people to help them end the suffering. Let’s give voice to that which we are shamed into “keeping our mouths shut” about and “keep private and hidden”.